Sick of hearing about the sexual [mis]conduct of nearly every famous news anchor, politician, coach, actor, producer, etc?
Rather than rant about it, why not step back and analyze it some? Here is an excellent article from Salvo Magazine on loving relationships. -DW
(Hat-tip to Wintery Knight.)
How Chastity Orders Your Relationships & Liberates You for Love, by Terrell Clemmons
Chastity: So Out, It’s In
The second approach is one Dawn developed following her Christian conversion, when she completely rethought how to “do” unmarried life. This approach offers modern singles like Jordana something they desperately need but may not even know exists: a sound alternative paradigm for love and sex—a lifestyle she calls singular. “To be singular is to understand the meaning of chastity, and chastity by its very nature goes against the popular culture’s beliefs regarding sex and choice.” It’s “the new counterculture . . . so out, it’s in.”
Contrary to the pervasive bad press it’s gotten from libertines, chastity isn’t about “not having sex.” In fact, it’s about a lot more than just sex. Dawn defines it beautifully: “Chastity is the virtue that enables us to love fully and completely in every relationship, in the manner that is appropriate to the relationship.” Of course, this raises the question of what determines appropriateness, but from both a scriptural and natural law standpoint, this is an easy question to answer. Sexual expression is appropriate to the marriage relationship and inappropriate to all others. Whether or not it’s easy to follow is certainly another matter, and Dawn gives excellent counsel on that and other related matters, but the point here is that the categories are discrete and clearly discernible.
The Chaste Singular
More important, chaste living is grounded in something larger and more permanent than the individual. Whereas in modern singlehood, love is based on feelings, which are apt to change with the wind or even last night’s dinner, chaste love is defined by and grounded in God himself. Love of God—love for God and love from God—becomes the love that orders all other loves. “For each of those whom divine providence places in your life,” Dawn writes, “friends, family, the stranger on the street—you ask yourself, how can I love God through loving this person?”
Whereas the modern single is driven by an inner void that is desperately trying to get filled, the chaste singular looks to God himself to fill the void. Rather than trying to get love through the right match, the chaste singular receives love from God, the ultimate source, and then turns outward with love to give from an inner fullness.
Chaste love is respectful. It behaves with appropriate decorum, which requires forethought. What is the nature of this relationship? Why am I in it? Where is it headed? What are my intentions?